I’m a father, husband, and business owner and as anyone else who has several priorities on their plate knows, balancing health and fitness becomes a challenging thing to do consistently. This is where the “Dad Bod” descriptor comes from--the inability to make time for yourself.
I periodically get asked what I do to maintain my health and physique without feeling like I am sitting on the “sidelines” of my life. Below are the most instrumental aspects of what I prioritize on an ongoing basis to maintain my health and fitness.
- I train 4 days per week of resistance training.
- I walk 10,000 steps per day.
- 90% of the time I eat a Paleo Cyclical Low-Carbohydrate Diet.
- I suggest trying a salad for breakfast to set yourself up for fat-burning and great cognition for the day.
- I restrict my feeding window to 11 hours per day for the digestive benefits.
- I prefer to make large batches of food a few times per week and meal prep the day of.
- I treat myself with rice cakes topped with SunButter and Fruit Spread. If you haven’t tried this, go to the store now. Thank me later.
- Supplements: I work with a practitioner who has a past track record of success that aligns with my objectives.
- I consider sleep quantity and quality of the utmost importance. Our family aims for about 9 hours per night (which doesn’t always happen).
- I manage stress by getting together with my friends and family several times per week.
- I choose work that is fulfilling and has never felt like work.
- I do not drink but I fancy judicious amounts of Mary Jane, with breaks built-in. Understand the pros and cons and keep your relationship with substances in check.
I perform resistance training four days per week. I naturally have a propensity for gymnastics, muscle endurance and conditioning but my genetics make it difficult for me to get stronger. I have to train more frequently and need to be very consistent in order to make even the most modest strength improvements. This is a lifelong effort for me, but one that is rewarding and positively impacts other aspects of my life such as personal and career development.
The time of year and phase of training dictates the specifics of my daily sessions. Right now I am working on improving my squatting strength with the belief that it will carry over to my Olympic lifts. The goal is to hit a lifetime best clean.
Right now I will:
- Back squat twice per week
- Bench four times per week
- Deadlift twice per week
- Complete assistance work four days per week
What I notice is that by training in entirely compound movements, my metabolism stays elevated and I have nutritional flexibility to eat whatever I want two to three times a week. My musculoskeletal system handles the stress well since I have a monthly undulation of intensities. In my current phase of training, I am resting as needed without any tempos so I am able to maximize the amount that I am lifting at each session.
In order to prepare myself for training, typically I will do 5-10 minutes of correctives and soft tissue work and will then start my movement-specific prep by building load on my first lift of the day. Currently, the most intense exercise is first, and the intensity diminishes and reps increase as my session progresses.
I block off two hours of training so I do not feel rushed and I can do a cool-down walk or vibration therapy at the end of my sessions. I used to commit less time to training but recognized that I was anxious and not enjoying my movement sessions with the pressure of time. I made the necessary adjustments and added 30 minutes to the time allocated to training per day and now really look forward to training four times per week.
If you’ve ever had a conversation with me about health and fitness, I’ve most likely emphasized the power of walking. Not only will walking increase your TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure) but also the movement of lymph and blood flow will support recovering from lifting heavy (and general aches and pains). Relative to most clients I work with, I have trained longer, harder and more consistently. I’m not old, but I’m not young. My body feels remarkable considering the amount of strain I place on my musculoskeletal system. I credit having to commit less time to warming-up, sports therapy, massages, etc. to walking a minimum of 10,000 steps every single day.
I batch several other important habits here such as getting sunlight and conscious breathing. When I go for walks, I am present with my 12-year old lab, Jamie, and 10-month-old son River and do not get on my phone. This is one of my most creative times of the day when I am able to reflect on my life, be present, and get lost in thought. I will do some conscious breathing, and let my mind wander. This is a big habit that leads towards a more balanced mood.
If I had to label how I eat, I would most closely identify as a 90/10 Paleo, Cyclical Low-Carb Diet. That’s a mouthful but it has been what I have gravitated towards over the last decade. I find that I am able to find a sweet spot for my:
- Mental acuity
- Body composition
- Enjoyment of food
Essentially I eat starches and fruit around the times that I train. Whether it actually helps me make improvements in the gym is up for debate but having some sugars or starchier forms of carbohydrates gives me the sense that I am stronger and more energetic when I train.
After my whole foods, post-workout meal, I stick to a higher fat and protein diet. Meat and vegetables are a staple on my off days and away from training times.
One thing I will add is that it is easy to start to accrue all of these “food rules” that will begin to arbitrarily control our lives and possibly lead us towards avoiding delicious foods and/or social occasions. While I have things I tend to live by, I stick to what I am preaching 90% of the time. No one is inspired when they see you refusing cake on your birthday or not partaking in the local cuisine when you travel. It is all about balance.
I would make the argument that social participation is an aspect of a healthy lifestyle. Of course, there needs to be a balance to eating healthy versus experiencing food and participating socially. I find that any more than 90/10 (90% adherence and 10% non-compliance), the more I feel restricted and feel the urge to overconsume food. Any less than 90/10 and I notice body composition repercussions and subtle bouts of self-loathing.
Salad For Breakfast
This is an admitted anti-American breakfast strategy, yet one of my most enjoyable meals. I have tweaked this over the years and I really enjoy it because it:
- Tastes amazing
- Maximizes my nutrient density for the day
- Promotes satiety, energy, and mental acuity
My current salad is a concoction of:
- Organic spinach
- Organic shredded carrots
- Organic cilantro
- Organic pumpkin seeds
- Local broccoli sprouts
- Sauerkraut or kimchi
- Leftover meat of choice (about 6 ounces)
- Cage-free hard-boiled eggs
- Homemade dressing (apple cider vinegar, dijon mustard, garlic, salt, olive oil, lemon juice)
- Himalayan sea salt
If you study bodybuilders and hear them talk about their nutritional practices, you will realize that they have these personal anecdotes for what makes their diet sustainable. These small things that may not be perfect (like sauces, treats, or spices they really enjoy) have such a psychological benefit that it makes the other habits and food choices more sustainable.
The things that make everything easier are fruit and eating a big meal several times per week. If I incorporate a few servings of berries into my meals along with a big meal in which I might have dessert, two entrees, or less than desirable food quality, it “scratches my itch.” I’ve found that if I stay overly-disciplined, this “itch” builds over time to the point where I become ravenous and become hyper fixated on food. If I sprinkle in these enjoyable culinary experiences, it makes all the other choices easier.
Digestion and Fasting
Since I was about 10 years old, I have had digestive issues. Heartburn, diverticulitis, IBS, GERD, barium swallows, Zantac, Nexium, Tums… I had tried it all or been diagnosed with some malady. Over the years I have weaned myself off medication and naturally gotten a handle on my food sensitivities and environmental triggers.
One of the most impactful things I have done has been reducing the number of meals I consume and the timeframe I am consuming food. When we take in food, it is an immediate strain on our bodies. That’s why 60-80 of our immune system is in our digestive tract. When we avoid eating, it allows that energy to be used elsewhere in the body, namely to repair and recover various systems in our body. If we honor circadian biology, we understand that consuming food early in the morning and then taking a break later in the evening makes a lot of sense.
Personally, I eat between the hours of 8 AM and 7 PM, however, on some days I will stop eating by 3 PM. It is worth mentioning that there are social repercussions to this (not eating during family dinners), however, the benefit I have from shortening my feeding window outweighs the downside.
Meal Prep, Leftovers, and Filling in the Gaps
I’m not a personal fan of meal prepping in the most traditional way. Food is less palatable and enjoyable when I make a large batch on Sunday and I am eating the same thing five days later. My preferred strategy is to make large portions of meat, starch, and veggies every two to four days. Often we will make leftovers for several meals if we cook a meal. This decreases the amount of time spent in the kitchen but it preserves the quality and taste of the food since you are not waiting several days before you eat some of these meals.
To decrease the burden of our weekly meal preparation we also fill in the gaps with some foods and sauces that help us enjoy our weekly food while staying healthy:
- Indian food from the farmers market
- Salad dressing, chicken and rice sauce from Thai Fresh
- Eating out one to two times per week (steak salads from Central Market, Thai Fresh, and Pho Please are staples)
Having a style of food that varies from our traditional way of cooking makes our food less monotonous and a bit more exciting. Yes, it could probably be a bit more healthy but these are home-cooked local options that we see as a net-win.
Rice Cakes with Nut Butter and Fruit Spread
I credit Coach Steven for this novel invention. As a kid, one of my favorite meals was peanut butter and jelly. As I have gotten older, I have realized the downside of that comfort food and shifted away from it.
However one night Steven and I were hanging out, discussing work and chatting when we busted out rice cakes. After we experimented with different combinations, we realized that SunButter with fruit spread (provide affiliate links) was a nice treat that brought us back to our childhood. It is gluten-free and has less sugar than typical peanut butter and jelly sandwiches along with no-lectins and anti-nutrients that would be found in peanut butter.
I have had a keen interest in nutrition and supplementation from an early age. In my opinion, there are a lot of overly-marketed and useless products on the market. In fact, some supplements do not have any of what they claim is in their product.
In order to use supplements in an evidence-based and effective manner, I follow this framework:
- Hire a professional with a track record of success who uses an evidence-based approach
- Test and retest bloodwork to evaluate quarterly progress
- Vitamin D - Disease prevention and general support
- Fish oil - Inflammation and cognitive support
- Magnesium glycinate - I have an increased need due to my activity levels
- Probiotic - Digestive and immune support
- Methylated B complex - Due to a genetic variation that requires an increased need for B-vitamins and methylation support
- Calcium aspartate - Nutritional gap since I consume minimal dairy products
- Zinc Picolinate - A nutritional gap
- Lipoic Acid - Blood sugar support after my experience with Levels (move to the front of the waitlist here.)
- Passiflora combination - Sleep/nervous system support
- DHEA/Pregnenolone - Hormonal support
- UNDA number compounds - Unique remedies synergistically formulated with plant constituents that target and carry potentized metals to specific organs where enzymatic and metabolic functions are carried out on a cellular level, helping to facilitate the drainage of toxins
- Gemmotherapy - A branch of phytotherapy that uses plants’ embryological tissues to enhance organ function and facilitate tissue regeneration, encouraging toxin elimination by directing them towards the emunctories
- Phytotherapy - a science-based medical practice that uses plants’ phytochemicals that exert specific benefits to various organs systems
- Pregnenolone - Hormonal support
- Oligo-Elements - High Bioavailability Trace Minerals
For the average person seeing this, this will seem like a lot; however, our family has a high priority of health and fitness. Instead of paying large insurance premiums, we opted for a lower premium so we can allocate capital towards the prevention of disease and maintenance of health.
Sleep is a big deal for our family and we make it a priority to get enough quality sleep. Here are some of the things that are impactful for my sleep:
- Go to bed and wake at the same time every day. We shoot for lights off before 9:30 PM and waking by 6:45 AM.
- I use a sleep mask and earplugs. This has been one of the most impactful products that I have personally tried. In the past, this was annoying to wear and uncomfortable in my ears. After our son was born, this was a game-changer.
- Our room is blacked out.
- We set the temperature to 70º. Any cooler and our son River’s hands get cold and he wakes up.
Getting together with friends and family is another high priority in our family’s life. Laughing until your face hurts and connecting with the people with whom we can be ourselves is one of my favorite stress-relieving tools. I make sure that we have a few social inputs each week that do not drain us.
Going downtown to a bar or a big group dinner are not our preferred ways to relax. Small dinner parties at a friend’s house or a day at Barton Springs rejuvenates me on a physical, social and emotional level.
Purpose and fulfillment is something I want to generally touch on. Health is more than the physical. Health can be an esoteric blend among multiple modalities. If you look at the blue zones, the Okinawans call it “Ikigai” and the Nicoyans call it “plan de vida;” for both it translates to “why I wake up in the morning.” Knowing your sense of purpose is worth up to seven years of extra life expectancy.
I chose a career that I do not view as work. I get to hang out with my friends and people I enjoy every day— pursuing things I am curious about and that are intellectually stimulating. If you cannot find purpose through your work, look for purpose and fulfillment with your hobbies and other areas of interest.
I have had an addictive personality at times. I’ve wanted to push the envelope of what I am capable of, one-up a friend, and explore altered states of consciousness. During college, my relationship with booze shifted me away from the person I wanted to be and the behaviors that would connect me with where I want to go in life. Additionally when I drank:
- I felt terrible the next day and wouldn’t want to move much
- Made poor food decisions
- Ingested extra calories from the booze
This year I have had only one occasion when I drank and it was well worth it. However, this largely does not fit into my life. I feel like I can overindulge in food a few times per week and still maintain a lean physique, whereas when I would socially drink, I was not able to get away with both. When I was drinking, I always held onto more fat than I cared to. Removing this from my life has:
- Improved my relationship with my wife, family, and friends
- Decreased the amount of money I spend
- Increased the memories I actually remember
- Helped me stay lean
Now abstinence is not for everyone and I fully recognize that social drinking can have a degree of benefits, however, I personally prefer a world without booze (at least at this stage in my life). I believe that humans often seek altered forms of consciousness, whether that be through drugs, exercise, meditation, etc.
Marijuana has been something that I have come to appreciate, but with anything, we need to examine our relationship with plant medicine and things we habitually consume. Plant medicine has pros and cons. For example, a shot of whiskey could keep you warm and alive if you are stranded in the cold, or it could be an escape that primarily deteriorates the quality of your life when it becomes a crutch. The same goes for weed; It can be the perfect remedy for epilepsy, anxiety or insomnia, but using it as a daily escape and failing to address the fundamental issues that cause you to smoke may be problematic in the long-term.
Mary Jane is a sticky plant—sticky to the touch but also with a sticky nature in general. Often when people start, it is easy to fall into a habit. I do see it as a net win relative to alcohol because:
- It has no calories
- It doesn’t cause aggression or stupid, risky behavior; in fact, the worse thing that has ever happened to me is that I have overeaten and fallen asleep
- I still feel like training the next day
The last thing I will say is that we need to inventory our relationships with foods and substances. If we feel lonely and eat chocolate every night for the dopamine and serotonin, this might be a great short-term strategy, but it does not address the root cause of loneliness and will only lead downstream later in life. The same applies to marijuana, alcohol, and any other substance that we habitually consume.
That is why I am a big fan of taking time off—taking a break from booze, marijuana, chocolate, caffeine. Not only are there physiological benefits of periodic breaks, but taking time off also allows us to see ourselves lucidly and understand why we are gravitating towards particular substances/foods. The result: a refreshing upgrade in our level of consciousness.
When we reintegrate caffeine, booze, and marijuana, we will need less of the substance for a therapeutic effect as well as gain a deeper insight into why we are drawn to that particular substance—and whether it serves our highest values and priorities.
I recently took a month-long break from marijuana and I noticed:
- My dream intensity and recall dramatically improved and I felt more restored when I woke.
- I had a considerable increase in energy in the evenings, which actually made it more difficult to fall asleep.
- I realized how I was using this substance as a cop-out way or “turning off” without teaching myself how to regulate my nervous system internally.
- I in turn had deeper and more fulfilling conversations with my wife and partner, Amanda.
Overall, I have come to understand that at this current juncture in my life, I really enjoy marijuana after I have completed all of my other priorities for the day. However, I schedule periodic breaks to reset myself physically and psychologically and to ensure that I maintain a high level of consciousness about my relationship with ole’ Mary Jane.
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